Dear Nicole:
My birthday is 5-14-90. Can you get an insight about why James is being so cold towards me this last month? His birthday is 7-18-89. Thanks, Marissa
I guess this means I need a relationship tarot reading. I'll check back for your answer.

Hi Marissa. Thanks for writing in. What is happening right now-
Your romantic connection to your partner is going through dramatic changes and bringing you closer to the flame of passion on physical AND spiritual levels.

-So this is a period of time that the connection with James is being tested and it's edging you closer to new changes and carrying you through some higher spritual levels of understanding.

What is creating the present situation-

Take up a new direction. Get rid of unnecessary
emotional and material baggage.
You are the only person who knows
your true needs and desires, and therefore the only person
who has any sense of what might be needed to
fulfill them. Live each day consciously - be awake to life's possibilities.

It seems you cope well with change, yet there are emotional feelings you
aren't used to that need to be washed away. Rather than letting them affect you, ask that they be released to the universe.(or your guides) releasing those things we have no controll of frees our emotional energy to be used in areas more helpful to us!(This is something my mom and I constantly work on as we are eboth emotional piscies!)The outcome, in part, will help you to see things more clearly from Jame's point of view too.You know what makes you happy
and have many possibilities coming ahead, be awake to them
and don't let those low feelings get in the way of happiness.
You thought the last big change would polish you off,
but you are still here, like a phoenix rising from the ashes.

How to proceed-
As you experience the ebb and flow of all
things in your life, you discover new ways to
moderate your tendency to hold on to things too tightly.

Don't hold on tight to the things your imagination is telling you ! You may interpret him being cold as something wrong with you but it is just him re-evaluating his own direction is his own life. This period will pass and play out naturally so try and not let the imaginiation create worries!
Listen, but then let it go, breathe.

Current factors affecting your relationship-
You see the possibilities in everything and turn
them into action easily. You evaluate conditions,
consider emotional factors, and predict results.
But you are successful because you act decisively.
Now is the time to take action based on
compassionate regard for others and that may have to do with realizing he has always been someone in your corner supporting you and now it may be time to be the strong one and offer him the support he needs.

-Think about the current situation and how it's being handled.
Put yourself in his place for a moment and see what his emotions
are at the moment. You can benefit from seeing the other's point
of view as well. I sense once he feels understood and supported without having to be the one to re assure you, he will warm up to you and you two will find yourselves even closer, in the next few weeks.

What will help the situation-
Your love shines for everyone to see. You feel
that everyone returns the love too. At this time
your greatest power lies in the freedom to express
your feelings openly. You want to share your joy with
a partner and you get the chance to do so..

-Express your love and emotions openly in a way
that you think will show that you truly understand the situation when you do.

What the relationship will produce-
Your are entering a period of decision-making
which will challenge your sense of independence.
You can listen to the advice of others, but make the
choices for yourself, not them.
Maintain a dialogue where you consider both sides of every question.
In this way you are true to your spiritual awareness and you
acknowledge your logical reasoning mind.

Your role in the relationship right now-
You have the inner capacity for understanding
that is based on the nature of things, the gaps
between ideas, the shift of awareness from within
yourself to the outer world. Follow the intuitions that
arise from such awareness.

-You are going to asked to face the world head on. You have set out on a
course of action, and it's time to view the results.
This can be a frightening time, when you are tempted to throw out
your own way of doing things if results are not as you hoped.
Rather than being negative, it's better to look at your own way with a critical
eye and fine-tune the places where it could use improvement.

<James>-You want to spend a lot of time alone. By understanding the nature of your own loneliness you can share more intimately.
James may just need some alone time, and by understanding
himself, he will be able to share with you more intimately the reasons of his doing. Try and not make his alone time about your needs not being met. It is time to support his needs and the rewards will be worth it!

Best of Wishes!
~Nicole

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